Cannot Get Over My Loss of My Boy Ari

Well, its been over a year and I cannot yet let go of my Ari. I have a meltdown more than I can deal with and actually want to leave this earth and take my girl Sevin with me.



Terriable to say, but it seems that I do not want to go on without him. I think that the breeder feels somehow it was my fault as we have no conversations anymore, and my guilt about the whole situation will not leave.

I try hard not to let Sevin see me in these melt downs, but when she does, I know that I am also hurting her as she still misses him. I got her a new toy and for some reason she thinks it is him, so she hides it and brings it out once in awhile and puts it in my lap and wants me to hold it while she licks it like taking care of a new puppy.

Its still too much for me to handle. I know how stupid it sounds but I just want him back. I have gone to counceling but with no change. I know I will not let anyone else take care of my Sevin so I will be with her until her time is up and then I really have no motivation to stay on this twisted earth.

Sometimes when I am really bad, I have thoughts of taking Sevin with me sooner, but she is a healthy, vibrant wonderful dog who deserves to live out her life so keeping that in mind helps me.

I appreciate being able to write this down so thank you for reading and maybe you will judge me, but I dont care what anyone thinks of me, my only concern is that my Sevin is healthy and that I can continue to care for her in the way she is accustomed to. Thank you again Misha




Total German Shepherd:

Misha,

I am so sorry for your loss. Please remember that your loving Sevin counts on you for so much and your cues to her are seen by her in so many ways in which you may have not even thought of it. I know she feels your pain too and if she felt any love at all for your boy Ari, which I'm sure she did, I am sure she grieves as well.

You both need to lean on each other to get through this. It does get better. I promise you that.

I have suffered the loss of many pets over my lifetime and can honestly say that I feel as though they would have all wished me to go on to complete my life before meeting them one day at the rainbow Bridge. Pets love us so much they would never wish us to do anything so drastic as to take our own lives.

I appreciate that you are using counseling as a tool. And while I am in no way a professional in matters of that kind, I can tell you that there are groups out there that work with grieving pets and pet owners. Please find one in your area and give them a try. You may find it comforting.

But please carry on for your Sevin. Don't discount her presence - she needs you too - all of you! And you need her. You can help each other get through this if you let her help you. But please don't give up - it does get better! I promise you this! And I will keep you both in my thoughts.

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Oct 28, 2012
"ARI"
by: Linda Arnold - St Louis

I know it's hard and your hearts are broken and time will heal and get better. It's okay to think and talk about Ari, it might make you feel better - he will always be with you in your heart.

When we lost our black Lab Ebony, oh, it was awful, the house was quiet - no Ebony, my husband and I cried and cried, I actually felt my heart ached, we miss her so much and no way I wanted another dog, I wanted my Ebony but that wasn't going to happen - she is in Heaven with God.

Two weeks later a miracle happen and God works in mysterious ways, a lady called at my work and she didn't want the 12 week old German Shepherd Puppy Mia, she just from the breeder 1 week. (Please read our stories; German Shepherd puppy Mia story and Mia My Beautiful German Shepherd Dog)

It was a little hard at first, feeling quilty but this Beautiful Little German Shepherd pup with huge paws needed a home and Ebony had a Wonderful life and we can give that to Mia too and it was the "Best" decision we made. Mia healed us, we Love her so much but we still miss Ebony and we talk about her, her picture is all around, her ashes in her "cookie jar" in the living room and we tell Mia her big sister is in heaven.

Some people just don't get it - how people can Love a dog like a human; the Love, the Unconditional Love of a dog, it is amazing those people are missing out. Please don't worry about people and that breeder, forget it, I am not judging you, I have been in your shoes and I know how you feel, I felt the same, "how can I go on", but you will, LIFE is Wonderful!

Your girl Sevin and you are lucky to have each other. You must have a big Heart, maybe think about getting a puppy or rescue a German Shepherd for you and your girl Sevin and no other could ever replace Ari but if you don't that's okay too. Love on her like you do and it's okay to talk about your Ari, he is in your hearts.

Remember, Life even when it's not so kind, Life is Wonderful!! God Bless All of You.

Oct 27, 2012
My thanks
by: Misha

I must thank all of you who understand what the loss of a loved companion leaves behind. I want to believe that we will meet up again and actually have planned a way to leave this earth after my girl lives out her life with me.

Knowing its not the right thing to do, I cannot find anything else to replace my thoughts about this. I simply do not have the words to say the truth of my feelings for him. Strange as I have had German Shepherd Dogs all of my life and when they were gone, I grieved, but this is different.

I would gladly give my life for 5 more minuets with him to let him know that I am so sorry that I could not do anything else for him as I would do anything. It makes me so sad to know others also loved their dogs more than can be expressed and I wish I could help them.

I found it somewhat helpful to answer some questions as best as I could from this site and hopefully helped someone, but still I cannot let it go. Thank you so much for the wonderful words you took the time to write here and I am aware of the promises of the Bible.

God bless you all and you wonderful animals. Sincerely Misha

Oct 27, 2012
You are not alone.
by: Anonymous

I felt the same way as you when I lost my Bogey after 9 years, the worlds greatest dog. I didn't have a Sevin for comfort and everyone I knew did the wrong thing and didn't understand the bond.

I set my goal as keeping the memory of my dog alive, as only a Master can do. God bless you, Sevin, and ARI.

Oct 27, 2012
Blessings for your Boy Ari
by: Barkley and Jordan's Mom

Misha, I don't know the details of how you lost Ari, but I do know how it feels to lose a precious fur baby. The loss is heartbreaking and you are left with guilt and despair wondering what you could or should have done to prevent it.

I lost my first precious German Shepherd Charlie at 9 mos. I came home from work one evening and she was unable to get up. I though she was safe in her outdoor pen but she must have tried to jump the 4ft fence and injured a disc in her back.

X-rays, medicines and a weekend stay at a specialist was supposed to cure her. Instead it killed her. This was 19 years ago and still I feel the pain and guilt even today.

Things happen for a reason and as bad as my experience with Charlie was, it allowed me to become the Mom of Spunky. Spunky lived to be 15 before she went to the Rainbow Bridge in 2009. I now have Barkley and Jordan and hopefully will continue my journey with my fur babies until I die.

Your sweet Sevin is hurting too from the loss of Ari and probably is very in tune to your feelings, by putting her prize toy in your lap she is trying to comfort you and tell you everything will be alright. I can tell you love her and take good care of her, You might seriously think of finding another pup to adopt or foster in honor of Ari. The new ones never replace a lost one but they can fill a void and help heal the heart. Spunky did that for me many years ago.

It's said that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. Be strong, you have a lot more life in front of you and much more love to give your Sevin and other pups out there that need you. Barkley, Jordan and I send you our prayers and love. Keep the faith, Ari is watching over you and will guide you and Sevin.

Oct 27, 2012
Keep the Faith
by: Lt. Ronald McCarty Ret

Dear Misha,I hope the following helps ease your pain. This reply was from the United Church of God referencing my German Shepherd Stanley who was killed.

I've tried to get answers and this is the best as I to want to be reunited. Regardless of your religion or your beliefs this reply gives me hope.

In my opinon the love for Ari will be the key. Believe in your God and have faith and all will again be good. I am very sorry to hear of the death of your beloved friend Ari.

from UCG:The Bible mentions many different animals. And it indicates that there will be animals in the Millennium--the 1,000 years of God’s Kingdom on earth. The Bible tells of a time of peace when animals that are feared today will have their nature changed. We read in Isaiah 11:6-9:

“The wolf also shall dwell with the lamb, the leopard shall lie down with the young goat, the calf and the young lion and the fatling together; and a little child shall lead them. The cow and the bear shall graze; their young ones shall lie down together; and the lion shall eat straw like the ox. The nursing child shall play by the cobra’s hole, and the weaned child shall put his hand in the viper’s den. They shall not hurt nor destroy in all My holy mountain, for the earth shall be full of the knowledge of the Lord as the waters cover the sea.”

Sometimes people wonder what happens to pets after they die. In answering this question, let us first notice a similarity between men and animals. The Bible tells us that they both die.

“For what happens to the sons of men also happens to animals; one thing befalls them: as one dies, so dies the other. Surely, they all have one breath; man has no advantage over animals, for all is vanity. All go to one place: all are from the dust, and all return to the dust” (Ecclesiastes 3:19-20).

The Bible tells us, however, that God has a plan to give eternal life to those humans who repent (Acts 2:38) and accept Jesus Christ (Romans 6:23). This eternal life comes about through a resurrection from the dead (Romans 8:11). The Bible does not specify that God plans to resurrect animals as He does human beings. God created man in His image (Genesis 1:26). We are a unique form of life; Jesus Christ died for us that we might have eternal life, and we are called His brethren (Romans 8:29).

If God has plans to resurrect specific animals, He did not choose to share this with us so we do not know. Whatever God’s intention though, the world over which the returning Jesus Christ will rule will have animals. And we will enjoy God’s creatures then just as we do now.

Again I'm not pushing any religion. We who love our German Shepherd Dogs must have faith and I believe our faith will warrant a return together in our next life


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